Feeling indecisive? Use this technique to embrace your vata and make decisions easier.
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I was on a call with a potential client a few days ago, and we were discussing future goals. He has a successful position in sales, knows that he wants to transition into a different position, but doesn’t know exactly what that position would be.
As we discussed some of the reasons why he was having difficulty envisioning a future dream, he said “I just have all of these different options in my head- there are so many ways that I can go, and I don’t know which is the right one.”
Something clicked in my head – “Ah-ha! My dear- you are vata.”
He looked at me a little confused, so I explained.
Vata is one of the three doshas, or qualities, in Ayurveda. Vata is a way of describing things, people, or times of day. Vata is fall – it’s the brisk breeze and the cooler temperatures. It’s dryness. It’s airy-ness. It’s you looking at a huge menu and feeling overwhelmed. It’s willy-nilly dreaming without making a decision. That is vata.
Now vata can be both good and bad. Your vata can be in balance, which means that you’re able to see all of the moving parts of a situation and bring them together to create unique solutions. Or it can be out of balance, which means that you’re starting tons of projects without finishing them, or feeling unable to actually pin something down and accomplish it.
When our vata goes out of balance, it’s easy to get into a panic. Things aren’t getting done and we feel a little lost. It’s like walking through an unknown place and reaching a room with 20 doors. They all look good, and you can’t seem to decide which is the best.
If you’re having a hard time pinning down your next steps, the answer is not to deny your vata and try to brute-force choose an answer. Instead, your job is to indulge your vata. Take advantage of all of the possibilities you see in front of you.
When we get lost in that hallway with all of the doors, our problem is that we don’t fully understand what’s behind each door, so we don’t know what to choose. If instead we indulge the vata and actually see where each door leads, you can actually make a decision.
The best way to do this is to get out a pen and paper (or a digital way of documenting your work), and lay out all of the options you see in front of you. Follow each scenario: what would happen if you took that job or moved to that city? What are the pros and cons? What would your life be like? What is the worst that could happen? As you actually play out the scenarios, each choice becomes more real. Instead of an ethereal potential, it becomes a practical reality.
As you indulge your vata, you give your brain space to calm down, to settle back to the earth, and actually move forward with the full assurance that you’ve thought it through.
This week’s assignment:
Think of a decision you’re having a hard time making. What are all of the different possibilities in front of you? Get out a pen and paper, and play these scenarios out. You can share your experience in the comments below or with other members of our Happy Healthy Human community in our private Facebook group. Your experience might bring you or someone else exactly the inspiration needed to take the next step. Thank you for sharing!