Hoping felt different than the other types of future thinking. When hoping, I felt compelled to act. Hope came along with a whole rush of plans for moving toward that future.
-Shane Lopez, Making Hope Happen
In yesterday’s post, I talked about how in order to improve and grow, we have to accept the past and present for what they are.
Easier said than done, am I right?
So let’s get practical: what are the conditions that allow you to accept the present?
Trust. And I would even say that you need unshakeable trust.
When you have unshakeable trust in yourself, you have true hope (as defined by hope research scientist Shane Lopez in Making Hope Happen). Here’s what is required for true hope:
- You believe that your future can be better than your present.
- You believe that you have the skills necessary to get you to that better future.
- You are willing to do whatever it takes in order to achieve that better future.
Let’s focus on number 2: “you believe that you have the skills necessary to get you to that better future.”
That’s unshakeable trust. That’s saying that I see the goal in the future, I see how I want things to be, and I can get there.
Notice that no where in there do you say “and right now I suck!” If anything, you have to build up your strength of agency, strength, and acceptance of today in order to have the motivation and willingness to step towards that better future.
How’s your hope today? Do you see the possibility of a better future? Do you trust that you can get yourself there?
Here’s one of my favorite exercises for generating trust and hope.
It’s a mudra – a hand position that you take in meditation, yoga, or everyday life. This one is called Vajrapradama Mudra, the mudra of unshakeable trust.
Cross your fingers at your second knuckles, holding your hands in front of your heart, and gently pull your elbows away from each other.
Close your eyes and breathe deeply, feeling the opening in your chest, the strength of your arms and shoulders.
Imagine yourself strong, powerful, and able to handle any obstacle. Give yourself unshakeable trust.
How can you make hope happen today?
Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day,
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Samantha Attard, PhD, is the founder of Happy Healthy Human. Sam is a performance coach and yoga instructor who helps people eat, move, and live with intention. Learn more here.